{"id":102,"date":"2014-03-06T17:29:17","date_gmt":"2014-03-06T17:29:17","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/workspace.cohnwolfe.is\/index.php\/2014\/03\/06\/adh-gefa-efna-edha-thiggja-lofordh-er-omoegulegt\/"},"modified":"2014-03-06T17:29:17","modified_gmt":"2014-03-06T17:29:17","slug":"adh-gefa-efna-edha-thiggja-lofordh-er-omoegulegt","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/workspace.cohnwolfe.is\/index.php\/2014\/03\/06\/adh-gefa-efna-edha-thiggja-lofordh-er-omoegulegt\/","title":{"rendered":"A\u00f0 gefa, efna e\u00f0a \u00feiggja lofor\u00f0 er \u00f3m\u00f6gulegt"},"content":{"rendered":"

N\u00fa skulum vi\u00f0 athuga hva\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 \u00ed raun merkir a\u00f0 gefa lofor\u00f0, e\u00f0a lofa einhverju eins og oftast er sagt. E\u00f0a svo vi\u00f0 t\u00f6kum skrefi\u00f0 lengra: er h\u00e6gt a\u00f0 gefa lofor\u00f0 yfirleitt?<\/h4>\n

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Vegna \u00feings\u00e1lyktunartill\u00f6gu \u00feess efnis a\u00f0 draga ums\u00f3kn \u00cdslands um a\u00f0ild a\u00f0 Evr\u00f3pusambandinu til baka hefur miki\u00f0 veri\u00f0 fjalla\u00f0 um lofor\u00f0, efndir \u00feeirra e\u00f0a skort \u00fear \u00e1 \u00ed samf\u00e9laginu s\u00ed\u00f0ustu daga. N\u00fa skulum vi\u00f0 athuga hva\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 \u00ed raun merkir a\u00f0 gefa lofor\u00f0, e\u00f0a lofa einhverju eins og oftast er sagt. E\u00f0a svo vi\u00f0 t\u00f6kum skrefi\u00f0 lengra: er h\u00e6gt a\u00f0 gefa lofor\u00f0 yfirleitt?<\/p>\n

\u00deegar lofor\u00f0 er sko\u00f0a\u00f0 er nau\u00f0syn a\u00f0 hafa varann \u00e1 og \u00edhuga l\u00edft\u00edma \u00feess s\u00e9rstaklega. Mannleg samskipti eru merkilegt fyrirb\u00e6ri og gegna a\u00f0alhlutverki \u00ed hagsmunag\u00e6slu okkar. Lykilor\u00f0i\u00f0 er \u201efyrirheit\u201c sem grundvallar samskiptin \u00ed t\u00edmar\u00f6\u00f0 \u00fear sem meiningin um fyrirheit er sj\u00e1lfgefin og gengi\u00f0 a\u00f0 lofor\u00f0inu sem v\u00edsu.<\/p>\n

Me\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed er vonin \u00ed fyrirr\u00fami og vi\u00f0 gerum fyrirfram r\u00e1\u00f0 fyrir \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 s\u00e1tt s\u00e9 \u00e1 milli manna, \u00e1\u00f0ur en samskipti hefjast; a\u00f0 si\u00f0ir, venjur og \u00feau gildi sem vi\u00f0tekin eru \u00ed samf\u00e9laginu s\u00e9u virt. Vi\u00f0 gerum r\u00e1\u00f0 fyrir \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 hagsmunum okkar s\u00e9 vel teki\u00f0 af ver\u00f0andi vi\u00f0m\u00e6landa okkar og a\u00f0 ofbeldi s\u00e9 ekki beitt. \u00cd raunt\u00edma, \u00feegar samtal \u00e1 s\u00e9r sta\u00f0, berum vi\u00f0 upp erindi okkar og gerum r\u00e1\u00f0 fyrir \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 b\u00e6\u00f0i erindinu og okkur sj\u00e1lfum s\u00e9 vel teki\u00f0 og vi\u00f0 f\u00e1um \u00farlausn okkar m\u00e1la.<\/p>\n

\u00cdslenskan er oft v\u00e6n til skilnings en or\u00f0i\u00f0 \u201esamskipti\u201c er sett saman \u00far tveimur meiningum \u201esam\u201c og \u201eskiptum\u201c sem merkir a\u00f0 gert er r\u00e1\u00f0 fyrir a\u00f0 eitthva\u00f0 sameiginlegt s\u00e9 til sta\u00f0ar og einhver skipti s\u00e9u v\u00e6nleg og lofi g\u00f3\u00f0u. A\u00f0 skiptast \u00e1 lofsamlegum or\u00f0um er l\u00e1gmarki\u00f0 \u00ed samskiptunum, nema markmi\u00f0i\u00f0 s\u00e9 a\u00f0 \u00feegja saman.<\/p>\n

Eftir a\u00f0 samtal hefur \u00e1tt s\u00e9r sta\u00f0 erum vi\u00f0 enn\u00fe\u00e1 \u00ed sama fasa hva\u00f0 var\u00f0ar hagsmuni okkar, hvort sem markmi\u00f0um hefur veri\u00f0 n\u00e1\u00f0 e\u00f0a ekki \u00ed samtalinu. Sama hvort sv\u00f6runin var neikv\u00e6\u00f0 e\u00f0a j\u00e1kv\u00e6\u00f0, \u00fe\u00e1 fjalla samskiptin alltaf um \u00e1\u00f0urnefnd fyrirframgefin lofor\u00f0. Endanlegar ni\u00f0urst\u00f6\u00f0ur samtalsins ver\u00f0a alltaf lofor\u00f0 um a\u00f0 gera eitthva\u00f0 e\u00f0a gera ekki eitthva\u00f0.<\/p>\n

Lofor\u00f0 er fyrirheit um framt\u00ed\u00f0<\/h3>\n

Merkilegt er \u00ed raun a\u00f0 lofor\u00f0 s\u00e9 yfirh\u00f6fu\u00f0 \u00e1s\u00e6ttanlegt samkomulag milli manna, hvort sem \u00fea\u00f0 er fyrirfram \u00e1kve\u00f0i\u00f0 e\u00f0a \u00ed samtali, \u00fear sem hvorki gefandinn n\u00e9 \u00feiggjandinn getur lofa\u00f0 a\u00f0 gefa e\u00f0a \u00feiggja lofor\u00f0 af auglj\u00f3sum \u00e1st\u00e6\u00f0um. Lofor\u00f0 er fyrirheit um framt\u00ed\u00f0, \u00e1giskun manna um framt\u00ed\u00f0ina sem \u00f3m\u00f6gulegt er a\u00f0 geta sagt til um me\u00f0 nokkurri vissu.<\/p>\n

Samskipti eru \u00e1 \u00e1byrg\u00f0 \u00fe\u00e1tttakanda \u00ed samtali me\u00f0 \u00f6llum s\u00ednum fyrirheitum og lofor\u00f0um, (hvorumegin bor\u00f0sins seti\u00f0 er). Svo sterkt m\u00e1 taka til or\u00f0a a\u00f0 tala m\u00e1 um heimsku a\u00f0 krefjast lofor\u00f0s, gefa lofor\u00f0, \u00feiggja lofor\u00f0 e\u00f0a a\u00f0 standa \u00ed \u00feeirri meiningu a\u00f0 h\u00e6gt s\u00e9 a\u00f0 standa vi\u00f0 lofor\u00f0 og \u00feannig hafa stj\u00f3rn \u00e1 framt\u00ed\u00f0inni. \u00dear sem ekki er h\u00e6gt a\u00f0 gefa lofor\u00f0 er s\u00f6mulei\u00f0is ekki h\u00e6gt a\u00f0 sv\u00edkja \u00feau.<\/p>\n

Vi\u00f0 vitum a\u00f0 framt\u00ed\u00f0 er v\u00e6ntingar, eins og fort\u00ed\u00f0 er minningar, lofor\u00f0 eru \u00ed besta falli stefnulegar \u00e1\u00e6tlanir, von um a\u00f0 eitthva\u00f0 fari \u00e1 tiltekinn veg.\u00a0<\/p>\n

\u00dea\u00f0 a\u00f0 lofa er a\u00f0 efna til s\u00e1ttm\u00e1la<\/span><\/h3>\n

Me\u00f0 lofor\u00f0inu er stefnt a\u00f0 tilteknu markmi\u00f0i \u00ed einhverri \u00e1\u00e6tlun. \u00dea\u00f0 hvort tekst a\u00f0 efna \u00fea\u00f0 markmi\u00f0 e\u00f0a ekki skapar svo or\u00f0spor. Sl\u00edkt or\u00f0spor skapast hinsvegar ekki eing\u00f6ngu fyrir \u00feann sem lofar, heldur einnig hinn a\u00f0ilann, vi\u00f0takanda lofor\u00f0sins.<\/span><\/p>\n

Lofor\u00f0i\u00f0 er s\u00e1ttm\u00e1li, samningur tveggja einstaklinga um \u00e1\u00e6tlun sem \u00feeir koma s\u00e9r saman um. Ver\u00f0i forsendubrestur fellur s\u00e1ttm\u00e1linn \u00far gildi. Kr\u00edsa myndast svo \u00feegar annar a\u00f0ilinn \u00f3skar eftir a\u00f0 halda s\u00e1ttm\u00e1lann eftir a\u00f0 forsendubrestur hefur or\u00f0i\u00f0. \u00dev\u00ed er mikilv\u00e6gt a\u00f0 athuga hvort um forsendubrest s\u00e9 a\u00f0 r\u00e6\u00f0a \u00e1\u00f0ur en kr\u00edsu er l\u00fdst yfir.<\/p>\n

N\u00e6st \u00feegar \u00fe\u00fa gefur lofor\u00f0, e\u00f0a einhver lofar \u00fe\u00e9r einhverju, er \u00e1g\u00e6tt a\u00f0 hafa \u00ed huga a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 a\u00f0 gefa, efna e\u00f0a \u00feiggja lofor\u00f0 er \u00f3m\u00f6gulegt.\u00a0<\/p>\n

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